It is just as the media has cultivated the fault finding. We can cultivate the benefit finding.

正如媒体养我成为消极者一样，我可以把自己养成积极者。

Then why not go after the gardener who grew 'em?

那为什么不挑他养者呢？

We don't expect families to train humanists or scientists or engineers.

我不希望家庭养人义者或科学家或工程师。

Unless the brood parasite kills all of the host's young, it may be best to simply foster the imposter.

除非寄生虫杀死了所有幼崽，否则最好简单地养冒名顶替者。

However, they must be taught the right attitudes and approaches to their learning and develop the attributes of high performers ?

但是，必须教他正确学习态度和方法，并养高绩效者特质。

In order for vacillators to cultivate healthy stable relationships, they need to learn how to pace themselves and get to know someone before committing to soon and getting hurt by their own expectations.

若想要敏感者养健康稳定人际关系，他就需要学会调整自己，在做出承诺并因对自己期望而受伤之前先了解对方。